The Most Influential Women In My Life Right Now

After I told an online trans support group that Mamas Wendy and Amy were the most influential women in my life right now, I thought that deserved some elaboration. So without ado, here are the top 10 at least.

Mama Wendy: Class and dignity abounds. I watch the way she carries herself, and her love got me to smile. She calls me her adopted, and I call her Mama Bear. We share a love of Simpatico coffee, and she was at my service of Renaming at Grace Episcopal. As I recover from foot surgery, she’s been encouraging me every step of the way.

Amy Bade, “Iron Mom:” I met her in 2017, and I was immediately impressed with the fact she’s done multiple Ironman triathlons. But she held my hand as I came out and started transition, and when I need advice on endurance running, I ask her first.

Rev. Jen Adams: Jen is the Rector at Grace Episcopal, where I attend. When I met Jen, she knew I had been burned badly by family and so-called Christians, but she listened to me in a way that no other clergy had listened to me before. She’s the one who ran my Service of Renaming, and when she’s available, we have coffee a lot.

Kelly and Christina: Two of my sisters. When I came out and started hormones, these two led me through the initial wilderness, protecting me, answering questions, and calling me a “baby trans.” Almost two years later, I am now standing alongside them and walking with them on this journey. Besides, Christina has loudly encouraged me to stand up to my dad, which I have. Somewhere, my big sister is proud of me.

Kate: My first sister. She knew. I asked her about hormones and what could I do on them. She too protected me in the initial stages of transition, and when my coworkers bullied me for what I was wearing, she consoled me and knew what to say. Kate’s at Rutgers now, but I look forward to her coming home and telling us stories.

Giedre Sundquist/Sarah Ritchie: Photographer and makeup artist for my photo shoots, these two women saw the beauty in me when I didn’t see it in myself.  March marks my second year on hormones, and with these two, I know I’ll look beautiful.

Theresa: My endurance big sister and reality check. She’s always wanted what’s best for me, and she’s been with me every step of the way on recovery. As I return to running, she’ll be there.

My Skirt Sisters and Skirt Mamas: I have a lot of Skirt Mamas who love and care about me. Noelle and Nicole have been fantastic. I love Samantha.

Donna Messina: We started out in endurance, now she’s just Mama. She’s helping me get ready for a job in the field and helping me design my outfits.

Alicia Rodriguez/Donna Cano: The Wonder Twins at Tyson. These two have supported me ever since I came out, telling me I can come to them with whatever I needed. Alicia laughed when I told her the side effects of hormones; Donna can calm me down with one look.

There are more women to be sure, but there’s a good place to start.

By adventureswithambermarie

Just a 38 year old trans girl roaming around Holland, MI. My old life wasn't as glamorous as my webpage made it look. Transphobic comments will automatically be deleted and you will be blocked.

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